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A Nice CALM Ride – Simon and Pat tell us all about it

Heading out on a nice calm ride are Simon and Pat, two good mates from Norfolk. After losing two friends to suicide, Pat and Simon were compelled and inspired to do something positive about it. And while we know that suicide is the leading cause of death for 15-34 year old men nationally, figures fade away into meaninglessness when it’s a mate you know who’s lost his life. That’s how Simon came across CALM. Now the two gents are planning an epic fundraising motorbike ride to Modena in Italy, and they’ve got plenty more big things planned. Simon and Pat took a moment to talk to CALM about A Nice CALM Ride

CALM: “Can you tell us about why you’re going on a nice calm ride, and what it’s about?”

S&P: “Pat and I have decided to go on a Nice CALM Ride as Pat wishes to commemorate the passing of two of his closest friends, by riding to places that they long dreamed of riding to themselves. Pat came up with the concept whilst we were watching the British Motor Cross Championship in Norfolk; he decided that it was about time that the subject of male suicide and depression really needed some national focus. We chatted about the guys who had been lost and that if we didn’t do something soon we’d be going to more funerals than weddings.”

CALM: “How did you come across CALM, and why have you chosen us to back us for your monster motorbike Modena run?”

S&P: “After speaking with Pat about his need for more focus on male suicide, I went home and did a quick Google search for male suicide charities, CALM was at the top of the list, and after researching their website thoroughly, we were both satisfied that CALM had the right mentality and approach for us.”

CALM: “What issues do you think are affecting blokes at the moment that we need to talk about more?”

S&p: “One problem that seems prevalent is a lack of positive male role models that are willing to speak openly about depression on a national stage. Another problem affecting men in the UK is a lack of community which leads to a feeling of isolation even if they are surrounded by friends and family.

Media pressure for men to be physically perfect and be strong on the outside but to conceal their emotions because thats just what men do!  And that women love a man that is strong and silent when really they’d love a chat with their man instead of their “girlfriends”.”

Simon and Pat have some pretty inspiring and exciting ideas for sponsorship and events. Talking to them, you quickly realise they’ve got the nous, motivation and ideas to pull off something big, and raise awareness that for men in a dark place, feeling isolated or exhausted, there is another way, and it begins with talking, and knowing that what you say is in confidence, as with CALM’s helpline that the lads are raising funds for. The ‘Nice CALM Ride’ campaign needs your support, so please, if you can share their website with your mates on Facebook, or follow or RT @CALMRide on Twitter, that’d be a huge help.

Simon and Pat explain: “What Pat and I really need CALM readers and supporters to do above all else is, to spread the word about what we are attempting to do using social media and word of mouth; also by donating to our Just Giving page, or text CALM79 to 70070.

Please follow us on Twitter: @CALMRide and make sure to use the #CALMRide.”

Finally, a CALM thought to brew on – what advice would you give your 15 year old self?

Simon: “Don’t let anyone tell you that you are limited or that you can’t do things. Believe in your ability and to hell with anyone else.”

Pat: “Always follow your instincts, don’t stop doing the things you love or want to achieve just because someone else says they are “lame” or “impossible”. Make your own way and don’t be a sheep!”

And with those words, there’s nothing left to say except show your support for these two gentlemen-bikers raising money for CALM today.

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4 Responses to this article

  1. Saddened to say that since Si and Pat wrote this article, another lad from our group of friends tragically took his own life.
    He had taken the death of our last friend so badly.
    This is the 5th male suicide in the last year in a relatively small town.
    I hope that the awareness that Si and Pat are so desperately trying to raise does some good.
    So very proud of them both.

    Callie 7th June 2012 at 9:58 am
  2. I’m so terribly sorry to hear that Callie, is there anything we can do, are the friends and family getting the support they need?

    jane.powell 7th June 2012 at 10:14 pm
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