“You feel the need to take the whole world on to your own shoulders.  You feel the need to take on everyone else’s problems & make them yours.

Why do you do this? To make sure that the people that you love and hold dearest to you are protected?

You’re not doing this to prove to everyone else that you are a ‘Man‘ – only yourself.  You think you’re doing the world a favour, taking on everyones troubles, relieving others of their stress.

You’re not.  You’re making your own world more stressful, and even worse, you’re ruining your positive mentality by taking on all the negative vibes.

You reach a point, a point where you can’t take it anymore.  You feel as if you’re going to fucking explode.  But you’re a man; everyone expects you to be the hero, you need to be the hero, right?


There’s a fucking giant explosion. Whilst trying to protect everyone you love, you end up turning into a monster and become the very thing you tried protecting them from… ironic isn’t it?

The stereotypical image of a ‘Man’ is fucked. It puts pressure on us as Men.  This stupid, ‘Manly’ image of being a strong, silent hero, taking on problems and sorting the world out is what seems to screw us up.  It makes us scared to let out our emotions, to cry, to talk, to express how we feel, so show ‘weakness’.  This image of the ‘hero’ turns us into egocentric, self-centered, vain people. We end up too proud to show emotion; too ‘Manly’.

It takes a bigger Man to let out his feelings and ask for help, than a ‘Man‘ who bottles it up.

Talk, there is always someone willing to hear you.”

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  1. Mate, I understand every word that you have put down there!

    That explosion! I even get the images in my head of turning the whole room upside down whilst I sit there listening to someone elses problems and helping them with their solutions, all the while I am bubbling up inside because I can’t deal with my own.

    But I still feel that I need to be that “hero” that you talk about – and can’t seem to get out of that feeling. Almost like I am expected to do something incredible and “worthy” every single day.

    Anon 18th June 2013 at 12:17 pm
  2. I try to help people to show my worth, I do not believe I deserve help and therefore doing this selfless act of putting other people first justifies why I am still on this earth.
    I agree that we build ourselves up like superheros, and I guess life is our kryptonite but if it was not for other peoples problems I would feel I was no use to society at all.

    Dean 18th June 2013 at 1:01 pm
  3. Thank You. Knowing that my article has bought about comments helps me as a person, after all it’s good to hear others views.
    To the Anon, I go through this everyday. Helping others, but yet I can’t seem to get a grip on my own issues. I feel exactly what you feel. Thanks.
    To Dean, I agree with you 100% The main problem with putting others first is, (this may seem harsh) that you don’t know for definite that they will be there for you. That’s why we need to put ourselves first, not in a boastful or egotistical way, no, we should put ourselves first in a loving way, help ourselves first – then we help others.

    Rajan 18th June 2013 at 2:45 pm
  4. I feel the pressure, under more scrutiny, and what I do? Act more stupidly.

    Anon 18th June 2013 at 3:01 pm

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