When was the last time you were inspired by a male role model?

Men are often ignored. What is the modern man meant to look like? We’re not talking about using moisturiser, this isn’t the 1990s. Billboard hunks ignore reality, “lads mags” ignore diversity (no, not that Diversity). All that men are and can be in the 21st century is lost in marketing crap.

We would like to help you tear up the stereotypes and challenge the norms. We want to make a space for you to be opinionated, funny and outspoken about everything that you are and want to be. We’re not here to preach but to inspire, to ‘reset’ male stereotypes so that we can live our lives without bowing to the expected. Because with suicide the biggest killer of men under 35 in the UK and 3 out of every 4 suicides being male, something is badly wrong. So let’s have some fun finding out what the new rulebook looks like.

We feel that it’s the least that men deserve, so here it is.

All men welcome.

That’s our manifesto and we’d like to know yours…

What's your manifesto?

Tell us your masculine mantra - we want to know what you think it means to be a 21st century chap.

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There’s always a way through

Ben Brace

Veritas vos liberabit

ninesquared

Men being free to be honest and real but only when they want to…

Mike

alcohol free with my girlfriend n kids in my own home not having 2 move away from them.

james

find something that makes you happy and do it twice

Stowie

SEX

Mr Boldey

A nice cup of tea

Stokie

be excellent to everybody

damian

Reach out to others whenever you can and show them they’re not alone.

Okradon

We are here to laugh at the odds and live our lives so well that Death will tremble to take us. -Charles Bukowski

conormac
Paul

back with my kids and gf

Paul
indya42

talk….and lots of it!

indya42

To love something you do, do something you love.

adamkeyworth

Be yourself. And as long as you are happy, and you are feeling good about yourself, nothing else matters. You are perfect just the way you are

FB_648549672

There is always a way !

flange

to have a man a have anal sex in my life now …………

dumbo126

Surround yourself with people who care, and take care of yourself

Mark Buckley

In remembrance of Daniel

Ruby

Be yourself and don\’t let anyone get in the way of what or who you want to be.

themorticiansdaughter

We all need hope.

malcolmmckenzie
fuzzcaminski

Family, friends and good music. If you can help someone, make their life better, then it’s your duty to, because if you don’t, who will?

fuzzcaminski

You are impeded on your route to happiness and true success mainly by fear of what others may think.

Woodes

Hold on, If you feel like letting go!

rD10

Just do it

MichaelJays

To try to live happily.

geenome
starsareblood

Our differences make us stronger.

starsareblood

if in a doubt, ask.

tomass

My guiding principal for a happy life is to accept what you are and never stop trying to change to make yourself the best version of yourself.

Heatherydoune
Turista

Be persistent, very persistent. Be very persistent.

Turista

my guding prinicple is that no matter what happens in life there is always someone there for you

weightmans06

“Happy” is not a destination its a mood so take things day by day and deal with the future when it arrives

penguin14

Take a little, give a lot, put something back. Give time to talk to a friend

sheenaghdavis

Help Im Bald

Mc Gay Fox

Remember the good times.

pebbles657

create your own story because the one provided you is not big enough for you

arcas
Corinne

Doing just fine.

Corinne

It’s not my own words but this has been my mantra: the state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind

groucho

All is Well. You are loved.

Gina DV

Why oh why oh why not?

sidtheferret
Sambino

“Be the person you want to see in the world, but, dont look at it to hard”. Ghandi said that, the first bit, I added the not to hard bit.

Sambino

I like to be professional and look after people well.

pianoforte

Take joy in the little things, but more than anything just get out there.

Richardb21

We need better help for young men and appropriate training of GPs, hospitals and employers to recognise properly that depression is an illness.

JRH

dont take yourself too seriously, never regret anything that made you smile, always think tomorrow is another day :)

MissingPiece

Make everything of everyday

Josh

We are human and should be treated well,the word fails when this is not done

dexter69

Dont let the bastards grind you down!

JamesMcGregor

Don’t let it get to you.

red_stag

hakuna matata

Vinnie-G
flp

What determines our life is not what happens to us but what we do with what happens.

flp

Honesty, discipline, perseverance, kindness, love.

France

I think the effects of television, the internet and the media have taken a devastating toll on society.

MrNick

Just talk to people, nothing’s as bad as you think, don’t suffer in silence.

GreenwichSi

Help other’s with the same problems.

COSEIN2011
shaggy

Enjoy who you are, and what you have achieved in life. Look around you and appreicate what you have. Be who you want to be.

shaggy

it’s easy to laugh, it’s easy to hate. it takes guts to be gentle and kind

hussein_uraiby

Embrace how lucky we are to be living. Life is an incredible gift that needs not to go to waste.

ChrisChadwick

Respect yourself and respect others

TheCCYP
Jay

to stop people being pressured into doing drugs

Jay
srobertson

yesterday is history tomorrow is mystery thats why its called the present

srobertson

laughter and my family are the guiding lights in my life

treads

It is okay not to cope…it is okay to cry…it is okay to accept help..it is okay..as tomorrow we can make a better day

gemstone101
Samson

A man of action forced into a state of thought is unhappy until he can get out of it.

Samson

I have something worthwhile to say too!!!

P4paul

I think the key is to be entirely comfortable and assured with yourself.

arty_guy92
Juberto

What ever will be will be.

Juberto
TBlake

Be true to yourself, take comfort in friends and family and never let those around you be alone.

TBlake
redgriff

Never keep a problem hidden, always confide in someone you trust. More importantly – Be true to yourself.

redgriff

Do what you want so long as it does not hurt anyone else , life is here to be lived,

triffiks

be true to yourself. find others on your wavelength. pursue your favourite creative outlets. eat well and move your body :)

Tai09

This website is awesome. I constantly come across something new & different right here. Thank you for that data.

ontiellshelt

I don’t know

lost inside my mind

treat others as you wish to be treated

phil.goldblatt

Never forget how beautiful you are.

riskybusiness

Believe in yourself. You worth it, you’re allowed to live, love and be loved.

Veeee
michael_mand

Shed expectation in favour of living honestly, without fear. Take what you love & embrace it. Give & accept the love of those around you. Be.

michael_mand

Be yourself – you are allowed.

Philip Levine

To help reduce or prevent suicide in young people

Angel of the Realm
dreamingdevil

Dont bottle up your feelings it will only end up in more pain

dreamingdevil
OldSkoolGent

Life is a door. You have to open it to see what can happen.

OldSkoolGent
Oliverclews

Depression is not a sign of weakness but a sign that you have been strong for too long.

Oliverclews

Good and Loving relationships with friends and family.

Richard

Self sacrifice is the most spiritually rewarding act of all.

happyhiggins

Every experience has value. Take from it what strengthens you and feeds you wisdom. Share this wisdom and experience with others.

Laurence

The key to a happy life is to be in charge of your own destiny, take control of your life, set goals and work out a plan to achieve them.

JamesD

A fool judges others.

Yossis32

stay calm, be true to yourself at all costs, listen to transcendental music

Peter
letthepastgo

Don’t let the bastards grind you down

letthepastgo

The 100 year view – imagine your problems viewed from 100 years in the future.

Sionnyn

Defeat your enemies with success. One step at a time, one foot in front of the other, you will get through this one way or another.

holly_amy
Stewart

be true to yourself and never lose sight of who you are.

Stewart

Don’t give in to the temptation to think in black and white. And remember that help IS out there.

josie-jo

Don’t forget the songs that made you cry and the songs that saved your life.

Girl_Afraid
gareth

“Only connect”

gareth

A life intact is a life worth living, don’t let anyone or anything convince you otherwise.

willtheblade123

to keep help networks like this going cos without it where is the love for humanity

prettypolly

good self esteem

demikian

Take your time, speak your mind and always dream so free. Aim high and wide and you will find you’ll always be the man you want to be.

busroy26

Look, live, forgive, forget, appreciate, remember, value.

jpw208

when the black dog looks at you, stare him down – however scary he may be you are always his master

freyamum

To be kind to yourself, to learn to love yourself for who you are, to look after your mind and body and to love and protect those closest to you

Tcbcrews

Every man should push themselves to be better, but by their own measurements.

Travers

Life is HARD my mother went to prison for a full 7 years, My father is an alcoholic My sister a Hard Druggie… .this is killing me plz help!

stevedavid
DeanAS

Be happy with who you are and don’t let bastards put you down!

DeanAS
Crossflow

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind

Crossflow

However you define, whether you are out or still working it out, transitioning or just a supportive friend, our society has something for you.

LHU LGBT Officer

I want to help make a difference!

Gazdinger

the most irrelevant problem to you, is the most relevant for someone else

ingham2k

Think positive, stay active and connect with people. Believe in yourself and others

sarah_janec

You’re more than good enough

annabanana
Flameboy84

Every man should have the right to a happy and healthy life with support to help us through the tough times.

Flameboy84

Hakuna Matata

Aled25
dahilarose

Go places and follow your dreams :)

dahilarose
Jen

LIVE TO RIDE RIDE TO LIVE You dont no what you got till its gone! Dont Worry be Happy

Jen

gay sex

gaymuggy

Men must speak up to redefine our place in society. If unchallenged, prejudices will continue to prevail and provoke needless suffering.

SteveJack
Alan

don’t be afraid to talk

Alan

Share my story and listen and embrace the stories told to me.

Tilley

Talk to a friend to ease the PAIN

Lee B

More youth development work in and outside of schools and colleges

annette
Millie

all you really need is music, keep your heart beating to the rhythm of the drums

Millie
RICHARD

Look after number one. Then you can be there for others.

RICHARD

Exist in your fullest colours.

LibbyEllen
Tallulah

Laugh into the dark.

Tallulah

to treat people the same way you would like to be treated

alpha

This too shall pass.

lindsaycleary123
Pedro

you can turn off the sun but im still gunna shine

Pedro

Aspire to a lower level of harm.

flutterby

Its never too late to be what you might have been – Noel Gallagher

Roostar
MadrugadaEterna

It’s better to light a candle than to curse the darkness

MadrugadaEterna

I want to be happy

andy

enjoy life

cookey

mmmmm make me happy

mmmmBigQuirk
steviestudy

People need people.

steviestudy

with the right intervention suicide is preventable; help support the intervention

Verity216

Prevent mental health discrimination by education

lawtcrav
dazz65

Passing on a helping hand.

dazz65

SEX

MrHanson65

Not having a democracy, being made to feel bad for expressing yourself, being spoken down to, feeling dead inside…

Iain
Icarus

You’re not alone, none of us are. There is always some-one who will listen, to everything you need to say. And if you think you’ve got nobody –well, you’ve got me.

Icarus

Being yourself listen to your heart

mossie29

Live each day as if it is your last, if there’s anything that you are thinking of doing do it.

marcia65

Compassion is key

narferguson

If life is a game, love is the trophy.

Carplarrr.
emmahebron

Love is love, and you are not alone.

emmahebron
3rybo

live to your potential, and help others reach there potential with you.

3rybo

Keep on keeping on!

daveo

enjoy what you have, not what you need.

Willb
Andy Error

Let’s move on cause it’s time to groove on. Hear the drummer get wicked.

Andy Error
nicebloke1977

It’s how you respond that matters, talking and asking for help is as important and valid a response as sorting something by yourself.

nicebloke1977

Smile more.

cjg274

I don’t live and don’t want anyone else to live miserably

muinteoirgoleor
CSheridan

Look after yourself, allow others look after you when you are in trouble and always BELIEVE you are needed!

CSheridan

Gay is it man

touronroute

Honesty, discipline, focus, perseverance, kindness, love.

Francis

Never stop learning. Do. Improve. Try again. Improve. Try again. Improve. Stay hungry.

artistephilo
Patrick

creativity

Patrick

It gets better

ianrgoulding
scotty

To try and live each day as it comes, not dwell on negatives and always look for the positives in any situation. Its There!

scotty

We can’t control what happens or what others do, we can only control how we respond.

Rex

Is ok to SHARE how you FEEL….Hugs xxxx

angel2011

lets get sorted

andrew
trippse

When surrounded by people that love you – can you survive anything.

trippse

Champion the silver lining

Coral

If the female suicide rate was even half that men, it would not be tolerated – The State wont help so we must help outselves.

Panther100

Happy people, make others happy. (:

Ashley

Live, laugh , love. You have to live to laugh you have to laugh to love. So LIVE and the rest will follow.

forfranco

Believe in JESUS! He is the ONLY way:) Jesus says: ‘Iam the way and the truth and the life.’ – John 14:6 (NIV)

calloyd

smile

lilyhannah

There is always someone worse off – who may need your help so stand and be counted – talk is good and so easy once you get started.

Walking-tall
bakes

every day at a time for my wife and son

bakes

It’s my life, I’m living it!

i_am_alex

FUCK ME

yardazz

I want to be found by me.

Iacobus
Daniel

Try and find meaning in someone or something.

Daniel

I dont’ know

lost in my mind
Anthony

Depression is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign someone has been trying to be too strong for too long.

Anthony

Someone kill me now!

Marcy
Andres Proanio

Softness always beats violence, silence is the mother of creativity…

Andres Proanio

Not to dwell on missed opportunities but to recognise they weren’t for me and focus on the future.

Bhavisha
umpstalumpsta

I used to know, but now I don’t.

umpstalumpsta

Power to the skilled and knowledgeable.

thomas_gray

History’s greatest minds have considered truth and happiness and still aren’t all that sure about it. When your not sure your not alone.

JMurray

Gays are the future

Iloveguyssomuch
max_higgs

Feel better each day and have as much fun as you can all day, everyday. Life is a dream, long live the party.

max_higgs
domonhiscomputer

Keeping the body in good shape/Socialising often/Following your passions/Do it for you

domonhiscomputer

to find purpose and not to suffer alone

samwjt

Life is a very complicated game! If it all goes wrong try try again. Life is deffinatly a rollercoaster!!

hardy1
Hannah Prosser

We are all uniquely special in our own ways and deserve to be happy and loved in life.

Hannah Prosser

Focus on making sure you look after number one – yourself – before worrying about others.

Sophie

To lean on people when you need to and let them lean on you back.

ECollins

I am CALM

taopman

‎”You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” Winston Churchill….

Janet
Nadia Youssef

remember that everything passes over us, and will not last forever. Try to express yourself, and take notice of the love, you’re not alone!

Nadia Youssef

Put one foot in front of the other and have faith that tomorrow will be a better day.

blackie50

Keep your Family and Fri ends close.

andy1232001

No ideology, just be kind

Nwestman7

Let go of it

tonydeadgoodevents
dantaylor

Being a man means being able to talk about being a man.

dantaylor

live for the moment. (i’ll work on this a bit more).

desimon

I’m still working this one out

conanima

I know when I am happy because its when I am not sad.

Emma
disintegral

Mental health is as unique to the individual as their DNA.

disintegral

Today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present.

tamkab

chill out

david075300

Be loud, be proud, be heard

Bilbo1968

back yourself

Justyn
Helen Wallace-Iles

Everyone has a talent & should be allowed to let it shine. It’s the people who are different in this world that make the biggest difference.

Helen Wallace-Iles
daidevil

Simple pleasures!

daidevil
Barry

Acceptance, patience, hope. Sleeping when tired.

Barry

Love the life you live.

Danni138

Communicate yourself well.

freeain
Outlawtotheend

Acceptance and understanding, the ablility to forgive and let yourself be loved. But above all, you must not worry.

Outlawtotheend

It’s better to fail then to simply not try.

PFC

Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind

curlybob

Making people smile.

FB_339500406

I am a man.

Dan Bell

share the love ,it takes courage to seek help and should be applauded.

JAMESKBRADMAN@GMAIL.COM

Fear nothing. You are superhuman.

smilemore

wherg

hellooo

MalTalking is the number one solution to bullying.

lukemarksmith

Men need a support network too!

luckytwentyseven
IrregularJoe

Love yourself, surround yourself with wonderful people and never give up. Help is always there, and you should never be ashamed to ask for it.

IrregularJoe

Keep Calm and Carry On

Keep Calm

Jon’s your guy

Jon Gibbs

Nothing is constant; all is flux

laurencewh

to be happy with ones own life and ambition. to know that by living you are making a difference; be it to a friend, community or nation.

corriganphilip
MCF

Dropping the bravado, not taking it on the chin… speaking up.

MCF
stewie

We’re all lying in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars

stewie

Laughter is the answer

duff_541

for every impossible or can’t theres a possible and a can !!!!!

AVBlfc

If I do something now, maybe I can change the wrong I have done

ciasthebiz

You need to find one constant thing in life that will always be there to over-ride any unhappy feelings.

AndyFurny

Meeting new people, not knowing, how they might guide you. I’ve been very fortunate to have a variety of mentors and I owe each day to them.

Grey

Don’t worry about what’s happened, it’s happened. Don’t worry about what will happen, just focus on what is happening NOW

RMN98

Success in life is getting back up one more time after you fall down…

fiona_alba

Keep a happiness barometer and check it regularly, if it dips bring it back up.

Jason

Nothing is unfixable, it might seem hard but share problems with family or friends, they would never want anything bad to happen to you

jadeybear

Once you have accepted yourself, then it becomes easier to love and feel less scared of expressing your emotions and worries.

kimlenghills
smorrocco

To be more open.

smorrocco

as Above

StevieB

WWRD: What Would Ron Burgundy Do?

Darren_James
elemental.tm

Mutual respect is mandatory!

elemental.tm

Help others when you can.

fletcherbrian

Just stay true to yourself, one day the pieces will come together again!

FunkyMonkey

Happiness and balance through out your life

harrywb

i\’m here for a good time not a long time!

MattMan

There are people who love you more than you\’ll ever know.

alice-tb

Loving those around you and being loved back…

Smaug

Don’t let people tell you what to be…

Thecriesandliesaredone

Always make sure you are doing something you are proud of.

cami_am

You don’t have to be anyone or anything, just being yourself is fine.

Pavan

not posted at this time

JakeAzad2343

One size does not fit all, so lets find the right size!!

maz

Open , honest dialogue with yourself first.

hatter

Change is possible

OCD Treatment Clinic UK

You will get there.

Octave

Mental illness is cultural illness: no-one is to blame but it is a failure of society as a whole to nurture its most sensitive members.

Matthew

Never take life too seriously, no one gets out alive in the end anyway

milesgoesfar

What is the loving thing to do?

donal

“Like a man is a mountainside, greatness awaits for those who try. None can teach you it’s all inside, just climb.”

Son of a Blizzard

- Appreciate the little things - Hold on to what you love - Believe you can and will get better

dr geary

Don’t let people get you down, stay happy, stay safe.

iRawwwN

Connection with and caring for others, doing what you love, thinking about what matters. Having a laugh.

Trace333

Remembering Betsy

Darren

one life, live it

smb_123

Happiness is being able to share your innermost demons with the ones closest to you in order to fight them.

lpovey

Help, im probably going to kill myself soon

Liam

Happiness touches heart like art :)

Hannahf1

Don\’t worry about whether you meet other people’s standards of “happiness” and enjoy the tiniest things.

thelastnorman

Know that nothing, even painful feelings, last very long. Practice patience and gratitude.

pearjooce
Lox

Rise early, meditate, exercise, eat healthily, everything in moderation, keep it in the day & treat everybody how you wish to be treated.

Lox
lynnje

Life is too short to be miserable so just know that things will always get better!

lynnje

i love gays!!!!

joshlovescock

Don’t let the story of now write itself.

Goggles

bill hicks – its just a ride

jodwilx
FB_646738584

Listen to music all the time, and express yourself, by whatever means. Don’t be closed up, make friends every day.

FB_646738584

To be at peace with oneself.

philhughes

I think i like men

alepine

Time to Act ourselves out of the silence.

TimCr0wther
Pete

From the mind of self-realisation and enquiry, comes the feeling of hopelessness, branching out from self loathing to self-destruction.

Pete

To stop people suffering in silence

Miles

I hold it to be the inalienable right of anybody to go to hell in his own way.

Matt Gee
richardlloyd

Remember you are never alone, there is always someone to help you. Bridges are never fully burned however badly you think they are.

richardlloyd

Just hold your ground, take it as is and the rest will come to you.

linnyy

Life and being happy is the realisation that no-one is high and happy 24-7. Feeling the middle ground is acceptable.

bengalijunkie

everything happens for a reason !

bethanymai

Good relationships with family and friends

lee0120

Buddhism and friends

LauraCristina_x
vostokoflove

I know this is kinda cheating but think it’s a pretty good explanation… http://www.songmeanings.net/songs/view/3530822107858721660/

vostokoflove

live your life be free!

lovelyshaun22

Look forward and enjoy every minute you can, dwelling on what you can’t change is useless.

MKMXM

Worrying is irrational. If you can do something about it then why worry? If you cannot do something about it then why worry?

Adam Dobrik

To put myself first because my happiness will have a knock-on effect.

Voicebox
forfranco85

Live, laugh , love. You have to live to laugh you have to laugh to love. So LIVE and the rest will follow.

forfranco85

I’ve been there!

Don Bryant

Too make sure you talk too friends/family around you the first glimpse of any dark thoughts because things only get worse.

Austin

Always maintain positivity, perspective and gratitute for what you have, or as I call it ‘Pospertude”

usuallyjustatshirt
paulburns145

Live everyday like it’s your last.

paulburns145

If your feeling down, don’t struggle with it, there is always someone there who can help.

margueriteturpie

There is always someone there for you

FB_100000366827283

You only have one life. Live it.

cazlaz

Work hard, treat others well, and things will work out.

Eric
Leo

Stay busy, be constructive, be creative.

Leo

E + R = O the EVENT and how you choose to RESPOND to it, will absolutely determine your OUTCOME.

Whitbourn82

If you can reach out and talk when talking seems like the hardest thing in the world. Than you will be a man my son.

james1

Take responsibility, be in control, find your reason for being, the meaning in your life, we all belong

laura.gallagher
loureid81

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion, if you want to be happy, practice compassion

loureid81

You Are good, you have always been good, you were only ever made to feel bad. But infact you are good. We now know that our minds may be trying to make sense of what happened to us and this is a natural response but we are infact good and have always been!

chrisadamsuk

…It’s all in your head…

funhousegreg
mandygoodheart

Take past experiences, positive or negative, and learn from them to build improve the future.

mandygoodheart

No matter how long or dark the night is, there will always be a sun rise

Rhidavies

Look your fears straight in the eye and come out stronger.

andfo82

always take stock of what you’ve got going for you

pwhip

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, just keep going and you’ll get to switch it on.

James

Be true to yourself

TwinklePert

My ability to fight with my own negative thoughts was my biggest success. And I’m proud of it.

tevtcop

Extreme drobing is the only way!!!!OMG!

layla.ayaz

Someone else can set me free

Sadgit1
Vee

Happiness is not insant, it’s a gradual movement through continuous improvement. Every action has a ripple effect.

Vee

Spend most of your days doing something you love. Dont waste time trying to fit in or worrying about what others think. Follow your dreams

annwae

IT’S SO EASY TO LAUGH, IT’S SO EASY TO HATE . ITR TAKES GUT’S TO BE GENTLE AND KIND.

BERGAN1

Inspiration is a power tool and I want to inspire and be inspired every day.. From every day people!

kevin lacle