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– In an exclusive interview, CALM patron David Baddiel talks to Rachel Clare, editor of the CALMzine at the London CALM launch event in Topman, Nov 2011. David tells us  exactly how depression can hit a bloke, and how we can learn to start talking about it.

“It’s not a question of pulling yourself together. Pulling yourself is something you can do if you feel a bit sad. But [depression] has almost NO relationship to feeling ‘a bit sad’. It has more relationship to a physical illness. So you wouldn’t say to someone with pneumonia, pull yourself together. You’d try and give them something that got them to a place of health. Young men in particular don’t understand that that’s what they might have. Making it clear that depression is an illness might make it easier for men to talk about it, because they can talk about having an illness, but they can’t talk about feeling bad.”



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5 Responses to this article

  1. wheres the hot advice chick?

    henry bristowe 4th December 2011 at 10:34 pm
  2. can you see it now?o.O

    henry bristowe 4th December 2011 at 10:38 pm

    Ryan Ramshackle 4th December 2011 at 10:38 pm
  4. A brave effort at adressing a serious problem . We can easily sit and criticise your efforts from the fence . But that dont cause change .eh? its in trying to help and having a go that we can tweek what we do until we get better outcomes . The real problem here is also a general cynicism and fear of psychiatry. Also a non acceptance of ourselves , our own labelling of ourselves. People need to trust . If the problem needs addressing here we need to look at the whole person . Friends and social engagement , diet , excercise , fresh air , trust again, food , sleep, focus . AND JEREMY CLASRKSON !! no that was a JOKE !!
    ta and respect , Dave Bananas

    Dave Bananas 6th December 2011 at 11:01 am
  5. This is a very good cause, i am going to do everything i can to help, my Son took his life on February 14 of this year. I just want to help.

    lemies 1st June 2012 at 7:42 pm

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