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DISAPPOINTMAN: Real Adult, part 1

When I’m staring at my inbox, knowing I should reply to an email yet unable to make my fingers move, or when the phone rings and I don’t pick it up because then I will have to speak to another person – those are the times when I think, ‘will I ever be a real adult?’ and start to question whether there may be something wrong with me via my inability to communicate. This anxiety then creates an alternate self which is me but a seemingly better, more adult version, and the more I think about this alternate self, the more anxious I feel because it seems so unattainable.

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