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Worried about a mate? Introduce ALAN

Over a third of men told us in a recent survey that they wouldn’t know what to do if they were worried about a mate. So, together with Dave we’re introducing ALAN to help you #BeTheMateYoudWant.

Want to help a mate that you’re worried about? You might sense they’re struggling, but what do you say? These steps taken from suicide prevention training can help mates in all sorts of tough situations. Introducing Alan

Four steps to help a mate: Introducing ALAN.


Ask open questions like, “how are you feeling?” to start a conversation. Show concern but don’t judge.


Let them speak. You don’t need to solve problems, they may just need to get stuff off their chest.


Help them make a plan of action and set some simple goals. Let them know what help is out there. Arrange your next meet up.


Build a network of support together, with other friends and family.


At any point, if you feel someone’s life is at risk, stay with them and call 999.

Get the full story on our  #BeTheMateYoudWant campaign with Dave.

If you or your mate are in need of immediate help, CALM’s helpline and webchat are open 5pm to midnight every day 0800 58 58 58.

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