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Worried about someone? 5 steps to help a mate

Want to help a mate that you're worried about? Not sure what to look out for? You might sense he's struggling, but what do you say? Follow these five steps to help your mates in all sorts of situations.


1. ASK


Encourage them to open up. Don’t be afraid to use the word suicide.

2. LISTEN


Listen without judgement.

3. MAKE A PLAN


Create structure, set simple goals. If they're suicidal, stay with them and call 999.

4. BUILD A SUPPORT SQUAD


Call in family and friends. Share details of CALM and Samaritans.

5. KEEP CHECKING IN


Don't stop once your mate feels better. Nothing beats regular meet ups (and hugs).

If you or your friend are in need of immediate help, CALM's helpline and webchat are open 5pm to midnight every day 0800 58 58 58.