You mentioned feeling like your dad isn’t listening when you share your worries. Of course, your dad probably just wants to be optimistic and support you, but hearing that positivity when you don’t feel it’s deserved can add extra pressure. Try having a conversation with him to share your worries, and let him know that his expectations are making you feel more stressed.
Relationships with family are all different, so do what works for you, but it might start something like…
Dad, I know you want the best for me, but I’m really worried that I am going to fail my exams. They didn’t go as planned, and I'm scared I won’t be able to do what I was hoping. I just wanted to let you know now so that you’re prepared. Pretending that I'm going to pass is adding more pressure. I want us to be realistic.
I’ve taken a look at some options for if I fail, so that I know what to do.
Lastly, your question talks a lot about failure, while it doesn’t feel like it now, life is not that black and white. While things might not go to plan, there’s always a way forward - some of the most successful people didn’t get it right straight away and giving yourself time and space to figure out your next steps is never a bad thing.
Whatever your results say, remember they don’t define you or your worth.
We hope that helps, but if you need to talk more, our helpline is open from 5pm to midnight every day or you can find more support around exams here.