Bullying can happen anywhere and at any time. In fact, most people get bullied at some point or another in their life.
It’s not just something that happens at school. It can be at home, at work, even somewhere like a football club. You might not even realise you’re being bullied. You might just feel that people are picking on you, that you’re the butt of their jokes and you’re feeling down and worthless because of it.
Out of order
But just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s alright. Bullying is out of order, and no one deserves it. People who are bullied often feel that they’ve done something to make them stand out, that in some way it’s their fault. It isn’t. Most schools and workplaces have anti-bullying rules. They are there to be used, so use them. It’s not easy, but it’s easier than having your life made a misery. You aren’t to blame so you don’t have to accept being a victim. They’re the ones with the problem, not you.
Bullies pick on people because they think they can get away with it. It’s up to you to show them that they’ve picked on the wrong person. It’s not easy to stand up to bullies on your own though. So tell someone you trust about what’s happening. If there isn’t anyone, or you don’t feel up to talking about it with someone you know, call CALM. We’re here to listen, not to judge, and we can offer you support while you get it sorted. We’ll also help you come up with ideas about how you might be able to put a stop to it.