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Relationships

There’s this idea that blokes aren’t bothered about relationships, But this isn’t true. In fact, CALM receives lots of calls about relationships from men and it’s the biggest cause of depression, loneliness and stress.

This might be because of a relationship ending or tension and argument within a current relationship. Perhaps you’re frustrated by friends or family who won’t accept the person you’re in a relationship with.

So why do relationships go wrong? It might be that you’re feeling down or you’re under stress from work, college or school and this is affecting your relationship. Bad experiences in past relationships can also affect our ability to trust someone.

Communication breakdown

All relationships have their ups and downs and it’s easy enough to ride with the highs, but how do you cope when you’re on a downer? Talking helps. But if talking to your partner only causes an argument, then confide in someone you can trust – a mate or someone in your family. Talking things over and getting things off your chest can help bring things back in perspective. It might stop you making a hasty decision that you later regret.

You might feel you can’t talk to friends and family, either because they’re too close to those involved or because they’re part of the problem, or perhaps because you need to discuss intimate sexual problems and you don’t want to talk to people you know about them. This is when talking to someone outside the situation can help. Often it’s good to hear yourself saying the words – once you start to talk, you can start to make sense of things. Why not give CALM a call?

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