Tackle it as a team
Tips and tactics to make your club a
Caring United one
Make it clear your squad is open and inclusive - so players feel free to say if they’re struggling and know they’ll get support
Give them something to smile about
Who doesn’t like a laugh?
You know that feeling when someone messages you out of the blue with a joke they think you’ll appreciate, or to remind you of a hilarious thing you did once, it’s nice huh?
Just because you know someone is having a hard time, doesn’t mean your messages have to be heavy. A little laughter goes a long way when you’re feeling crap, so send a message to let someone know you’re thinking about them, ask them over for a movie, or just send them something you found funny today. It might just turn their day around.
If you notice someone who seems isolated, make an effort to get them involved without drawing attention to them.
Listening is important. Be open to people and ask them open-ended questions. And if they do mention something, check-in with them next week. Take an interest and remember what someone has got going on in their life.
GO AHEAD AND ASK
Sometimes the best thing you can do is say it as you see it.
Too often, we shy away from digging a little deeper because we don’t like to think that our friend is sad. But avoiding the subject all together, can make someone feel even more isolated or silly for feeling the way they do.
The truth is, no matter how much banter your mate might throw at you, whether they’re the life and soul of the party, or always seem to be smiling – anyone can struggle with their mental health and anyone can feel suicidal.
Mostly it’s about listening and giving them space to chat. Let your friend know you’re worried about them and that they can talk to you in confidence. Don’t try and fix things, pretend to know how they feel, or convince them how lucky they are. Instead, allow them time to talk, ask questions like “how does that make you feel?” and reassure them that these feelings aren’t permanent and support is available.
At CALM we’re always here to help - let people know they can talk to us. Put posters up in the clubhouse, near the pitch, everywhere. Share our details in the whatsapp group.
We don’t just mean a Klinnsman in the rain or a Shearer salute: celebrations are always important. Enjoying the moment, the victories you have. We’re all about being against living miserably and finding that time to have a laugh.
Find time to get together and have a laugh and celebrate wins big and small - that outlet can make all the difference.
Make sure those who aren’t playing feel like an important part of the team too.