Let's talk about wellbeing

Look - we all have stuff going on. Life isn’t always easy, and sometimes it’s bloody hard. That’s where you come in.

Leading a CALM Club, you’re in a powerful position. You’re the person who checks in, the one who listens, the one who creates a space where people can be themselves. And that matters - a lot.

Being a CALM club isn’t about turning you into a therapist. It’s about giving you the confidence and tools to have convo’s in your group and support the people when they’re going through a rough patch. Because sometimes just asking, “You alright?” - and meaning it - can make all the difference.

You don’t need all the answers. You just need to show up, listen, and let people know they’re not alone. That’s what supporting wellbeing looks like. That’s what being there means.

Ready? Let’s do this.

So - how do we keep our wellbeing in a good spirit?

The Big 5: What We All Need for Good Wellbeing

You don’t need perfection. Just a decent balance. Here’s what to check in on:

1. Connection – People Who Get You

We need other humans. Full stop. Friends, family, teammates, group members—anyone who makes you feel seen. Not just likes and follows. Real chat. Real support. Feeling lonely in a crowd? That’s a red flag—reach out.

2. Purpose – Something That Gives You a Reason to Get Up

We all need to feel like we matter. A job, a hobby, helping someone else, creating something, turning up to your group. Doesn’t need to be “changing the world.” Just something that gives you a why.

3. Rest – Proper Switch-Off Time

You’re not a machine. Burnout doesn’t mean you’re strong—it means you’ve hit the limit. Sleep. Breaks. Saying no sometimes. Your brain needs off-time. So does your body.

4. Movement – Not “Fitness Goals.” Just Moving.

Your body and mind are teammates. Keep both in the game. Walk, stretch, dance, punch a pillow—whatever works. Not about looking a certain way. Just feeling better.

5. Expression – Letting It Out, Not Bottling It Up

Feelings are like pressure cookers—let them out or they’ll explode. Talk. Write. Draw. Shout into a cushion. Cry. Laugh. Breathe. Don’t fake fine. Real beats perfect every time.

Check-In, Not Check-Out

Wellbeing isn’t about being happy all the time. That’s a myth.

It’s about being in tune with yourself. Spotting when things are off. Doing small things to get back on track.

And if someone in your group is struggling? Remind them:

You don’t have to “fix” everything to feel better. You just have to start.

Wellbeing Discussion Guide

Purpose:

To create a safe, down-to-earth space where group members can talk (or just listen) about how they’re really doing - and know they’re not alone.

Suggested Timeframe:

15–30 minutes

(Adapt to your group’s energy, time, or how deep people want to go)

Before You Start

Set the scene:

“This isn’t a big emotional unload or a therapy session. It’s just a chance to check in - see how people are doing, chat about what’s been hard, and maybe share what’s helping. No pressure to talk. Listening is just as important.”

Create safety:

• Make it clear: No one has to share.

• Keep it non-judgemental - no advice unless asked for, no fixing, no pressure.

• If you’re leading, model openness. Go first. Be honest, but not overwhelming.

Discussion Flow

1. Start Simple – Low-Stakes Opener (5 mins)

Begin with a light check-in to ease people in:

• “Describe your week in a word or emoji.”

• “What’s one small win you’ve had lately?”

• “What’s something that’s helped you feel a bit more like you this week?”

Keep it short and playful. Set a relaxed tone.

2. Real Talk – How Are You Actually Doing? (10–15 mins)

Use any of these prompts to invite real, open sharing:

• “How have you really been lately?”

• “What’s been feeling heavy or hard to manage recently?”

• “What’s draining your energy right now—and what’s giving you a boost?”

• “What helps you cope when things feel a bit too much?”

• “When you’re not okay—how do you usually know? What are the signs?”

Follow-up questions to keep the chat going:

• “Can anyone relate?”

• “What’s worked for you when you’ve felt like that?”

• “Has anyone found something that helped them lately—big or small?”

Again - sharing is optional. Just holding the space is powerful.

3. Looking Ahead – Refocus and Recharge (5–10 mins)

Close with reflection and small steps:

“What’s one thing you can do this week to take care of yourself?”

• “What would support look like for you right now?”

• “Is there something you want to do more - or less - of for your own wellbeing?”

• “Anything you want to ask for from the group?”

Let people answer out loud or just reflect silently. No pressure.