Worried about someone - CALM Clubs

Intro

We care a lot about the people in our lives, often wondering if they’re ok, and maybe we’ve noticed some stuff to suggest that they’re not. But, we don’t quite know what to do next. That’s where this discussion comes in.

Having some responsibility in a CALM Club, you’re in a powerful position. You’re the person who can create the space for your members to explore this topic, and support each with whatever’s on their

Being a CALM club isn’t about turning you into a therapist. It’s about giving you the confidence and tools to have convo’s in your group and support people when they’ve got something on their mind- maybe there’s someone in their life that they’ve worried about and they’re not sure what to do?

You don’t need all the answers. You just need to show up, listen, and let people talk stuff through. That’s what happens in a CALM club. That’s what being there means.

Ready? Let’s do this

So - how do we check in our mates and loved ones?

Here’s a rundown on the things to try:

Carry on doing all the things you’d usually do – keep talking and keep meeting up to do stuff you both enjoy. And you can:

1. Keep an eye out - something feeling off, seems to have changed? Trust your instincts. Look out for changes in what they do, how they seem, their routines and stuff like eating, sleeping, handing out. If they seem to be doing lots more or lots less of these things, it’s worth checking in.

2. Check in with others - There’s no harm in asking mutual friends or family if they’ve been worried too. Sometimes you need a second opinion. Check in with the mates you have in common to see if they’ve picked up on anything? Chances are they probably have.

3. Go ahead and ask- Sometimes the best thing you can do is say it as you see it. Too often we shy away from digging a little deeper but avoiding the subject all together, can make someone feel even more isolated or silly for feeling the way they do. The truth is, anyone can struggle with their mental health and anyone can feel suicidal.

4. Listen-Mostly it’s about listening and giving them space to chat. Let them know you’re worried about them and that they can talk to you in confidence. Don’t try and fix things, pretend to know how they feel, or convince them how lucky they are. Instead, allow them time to talk, ask questions like “how does that make you feel?” and reassure them that these feelings aren’t permanent and support is available.

5. Don’t shy away from the S word-You might worry that talking about suicide will put ideas in your friend’s head, but that’s not true. Acknowledging they’re feeling this way can actually be a big relief and make them feel less alone. If you think someone you care about is struggling with suicidal thoughts, we have loads of resources resources for them, and our helpline is there to support you, and them.

And, if it’s a young person that you’re worried about, our CARE Kit is the thing for you. You’ll find practical mental health and suicide prevention for every situation.

Wellbeing Discussion Guide

Purpose:

To give people a safe space to talk about what it’s like to be worried about someone - whether it’s a friend, teammate, classmate, or family member—and to share what’s on their mind, without judgement or pressure.

This isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about being real, showing up for each other, and knowing that supporting someone else can take a toll too.

Suggested Timeframe:

15–30 minutes
Adjust based on the group’s vibe, energy, or how deep people want to go.)

Before You Start

Set the scene:
“This isn’t about being a mental health expert or solving anyone’s problems. It’s just a space to talk about what it feels like to care about someone who’s struggling. Whether you want to share or just listen, both are okay.”

Create safety:

• No one has to speak. Listening counts.

• No judging. No fixing. Just support.

• If you’re leading, be human. Share first if you can—keep it honest but grounded.