My name is Danni Mather, and I am alive.
I’m 22 years old and from Runcorn, a small and sleepy town in the north west of England. I am the bass player for UK based Tech/Death metal band This Is Turin and this is my story.
Over the past few years I have found myself in a constant struggle with myself. For most people it seems, the world just keeps on turning regardless, we all have somewhere to go, something to do and someone to talk to. But what do we do when these things seem to disappear? Where do we turn? I was lost. I felt as though I was just drifting through my life, I had no purpose and couldn’t seem to find my path. I fell into spells of depression; some that lasted a few weeks and others that lasted years.
That was until I was stopped in my university by a girl with a clipboard, she asked me if I could spare five minutes to talk about some things, thinking she was one of those annoying people trying to get me to sign up for car insurance or something, I initially declined and continued walking. She then mentioned it was to do with mental health and I stopped. She offered me a seat and a cup of tea, (if she’d mentioned the tea first I would have stopped immediately!)
We sat and spoke about the issues and the statistics until she asked had I been affected by any of these issues, I can only imagine the pure terror when I began unloading the past few years of my life upon this poor girl. She gave me the details of several places, websites and telephone numbers I could call for help and I was on my way. I have no idea who she was, her name or even what she looked like, but she saved my life that day.
She worked for CALM. Almost 12 months since that day I’m still here, and I am still alive! This charity helped me turn my life around, offered me the support I needed and gave me the tools I needed to find my feet again. Since then I have been doing all I can to promote this charity to others in hope they too can utilise this service or may know of somebody who may need it.
I have since been working recording my bands debut album, touring across the UK and having an amazing time enjoying my new found love for life again! I decided to use this extensive travelling and exposure to help promote CALM. It came about through some very odd conversations that my band would have a Beardathon, in which the aim was to grow the longest and biggest beard before our album was complete. Almost six months later the album is due for completion and the time to shave it off is almost upon us!
I have decided that my shave off shall be to raise money for CALM with an initial target of £500, originally aimed at my Facebook friends alone donating a single pound each in order to the reach the target. However, it quickly escalated and more people were invited to the event and more people expressed an interest in sponsoring the cause.
I shall be shaving off my beard in July to coincide with the release of my band’s album. I know now that should I ever need to talk to somebody, need somewhere to go, CALM will always be there for me. They have helped me to an extent I could not possibly explain, I owe these people everything and I hope they can go on to help everybody that may need it. If you would like to sponsor me you can donate online via www.justgiving.com/DanniMather and more information on my band’s work with this and other charities at www.myspace.com/thisisturinuk and Facebook: This Is Turin.
Many thanks! Take care and keep safe!